For Western mourning garments, it is customary to display jewelry. White pearl necklaces are most common for funerals. As a true color of the natural world itself, it is said that white is a suitable color because it symbolizes pure tears that remind us of death. Gray or black are also suitable. Pearl size should be about 7 to 8 mm.
It is recommended to avoid wearing baroque as it portrays a strong sense of play. It is also suggested to avoid too many pearls with color, although it is easy to think that black pearls are a good choice, but it is best to avoid “peacock colors” in general.
When displaying black pearls, it is best to choose a modest size and shape with a gray to black color. The length of the necklace should be about 40 cm. Layered necklaces signifying “repeated misery,” and long necklaces which are said to be “prolonging sadness” are not considered suitable.
For earrings, consider the use of a simple, one pearl design that fits your ears, but try to avoid the drop type. A pearl ring should be a simple marriage ring only. Do not use diamonds or other shining stones or decorative designs, and use a silver colored setting.
Of course, it is not necessary to wear all of these, but it is good to choose some depending on local customs, in consideration of your position and relationship with the deceased. Although pearls are indispensable for ceremonial occasions, it is essential to present proper etiquette on special occasions. The outfit should show consideration to the other parties, and at these ceremonies especially, always keep in mind, “be more cautious than adventurous.”
